About

IMG_0179I am a single mum to 2 boys. My eldest was born with a brain injury (due to lack of oxygen) and faces many challenges because of it. His diagnoses include autism, adhd,  auditory processing disorder and dyspraxia. My boys are also both visually impaired.

Although this blog is about parenting a child with special needs, it’s not a parenting blog. It’s a safe place to tell the world about my experiences of raising a child with a brain injury. I want to document the highs and lows, the hilarities and absurdities that are very much a part of our day to day. And the rawness and grit that can so often threaten to override everything else. And I want to share the coping strategies I am learning along the way. Above all else, I hope to reach other special needs parents who may be feeling isolated and to share ideas and experiences.

And sometimes this blog will be a shameless and cathartic rant! Parenting is hard. Parenting a ‘special child’ is harder still and the world doesn’t always understand – so I want to explain.

Why ‘the Stoic Mother’? It’s part irony, part aspiration! I am no philosopher! And I don’t claim to have mastered Stoicism or even to truly understand it. But, from the little I do know, I have found that it is absolutely something to aim for. My dear Dad often tells me “stay stoic” – I am trying my best to do just that.

“You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations